Monday, December 23, 2013

Black Women, I lost my hair because of worry and now I've lost my woman too


Christine has shared her personal story how she lost her hair after losing her mother to breast cancer.   She was in a lesbian relationship for many years and her ex-lover moved out and refused to have any further association with her.  She's honest enough to admit she thought her ex-lesbian partner really cared, much more than the mother she lost to breast cancer, but she finally discovered who her ex-lover really was, after she reminded her she was no longer young and pretty.  After she lost her hair, her ex-lover told her she looked even worse than she already was.  Now, she does not know how to properly grieve after losing her mother and hates herself for thinking a woman could fill the void of giving her the love, her mother never gave her.  Her ex-lover was even there for her in the hospital room when her mother was dying of breast cancer and she vowed she would never leave her.   Christine says she feels like a failure and hates herself for even being a lesbian. Christine wants to know how to get over her lesbian lover and grow her hair back.

Hello Christine, thank you for contacting SoulsofBlackWomen.com and thank you for sharing your story.  We are aware you have been dumped by your ex-lesbian lover after you lost her your hair and most importantly, your dear mother.  You know, a lot of us black women have lost our mothers long before they died of a disease.  Let us be more clear, a lot of black women have not loved their daughters how they have loved and cared for their sons, so we've had to teach ourselves how to become women, the best way we know how.  Therefore, don't blame yourself, there are many black women who have became lesbians, because they longed for their mother's love, which is a big mistake.   

So now, let us help you with your problem.  Your ex-lover may have pretended to be there for you when your mother was dying of breast cancer while having hatred in her heart.  Now, that you've lost your hair, it's just an excuse for her to leave you.  Didn't you tell us, she was already putting you down for your age and appearance?  Therefore, you must learn to love yourself and forgive yourself for looking to women to give you the love and encouragement your mother never gave you.   Begin to picture yourself bedside your mother in the hospital without your ex-lover being there and begin praying and telling God you love and forgive your mother.   Now, you sent us a photo (not the above photo) of yourself and we see a very beautiful woman.  All you have to do is accept yourself as beautiful and realize age is nothing but a number.   There are 50 year old women and older who are more youthful than 20 year old women, believe it or not.   

As for your hair, go to a professional and let them look at your hair.  You must allow them to regularly shampoo and condition it.  Go seek medical advice for depression and possibly, your doctor can prescribe a medication that can help with your nerves.  Then, in a few months time, you may see your hair begin to grow.  Many black women lose their hair, because of a nervous condition, but-it has nothing to do with them not being beautiful, it's just that they cannot deal with a lot of stress, so their hair begins to fall out.  You just happen to be one of those women, but don't put yourself down for it.  One of these days, if your ex-lover happens to lose her own mother, she will learn what it feels like to endure deep depression and then, you can forgive and be there for her, if she wants it.  However, we would encourage you to never go back to her for a relationship, because from what you are telling us, it was a very unhealthy one.  One of these days, God will send the right person to you and it could be a good man, you never know.  

God bless you Catherine and keep reading SoulsofBlackWomen.com.

Note: All names and photos are fictitious


Black Women, my son got shot to death after a dispute, no one cares



Sheila wrote SoulsofBlackWomen.com sharing with us about her son's death.  Sheila told us her son was a good child and worked very hard, but he was in the wrong place at the wrong time.  After her son's death, she says she has lost friends and her best-friend has been going around the neighborhood telling people her son died because he was a drug-dealer, but she says her best friend is lying.  She raised her son the right way and he did not sell drugs.   Sheila does not know why black women have turned on her, after finding out about her son's death in the news.  She says although she lost her ex-husband to a white woman, black women have become her worst enemies.  She has had to deal with her son having a bad reputation after his death and even have had to face her son's killers in court.  She does not know how to love herself and feels like a failure after being ostracized by black women who have gossiped as though she was a bad mother who never disciplined her son.  She shares his father did not even come to his son's funeral and married his white girlfriend on the day of the funeral.

Dear Shela, thanks for contacting our journalists, we really care about what you are going through.   Let us start off being very honest with you, many black women are not united as they used to be and this is one of the reasons why many black men have left us for white women and even other races.  However, you must make a wise decision to love yourself and forgive them who blame you for your son's death.  Even if he was a drug dealer, it is not your fault, because we are very sure you raised your son to do right.   Now, you must realize there are still some good sisters; however, the reason why we have it so hard is because many of them refuse to stick together.   Therefore, we want you to start a support group for all mothers who have lost sons to violence.  Learn to ignore those who are ignorant and obviously do not have a life.   Forgive them and begin to be good to yourself and help those who are in a lot a pain like yourself.   

As for your ex-husband refusing to attend his son's funeral, but marry on the day of his homegoing, he will reap it.  All you have to do now is love Sheila and focus on the good things about your son and use his memory to encourage young men in the black community to love and respect themselves and each other.  Since many black women are not giving you the respect and consideration for your grievance, you might as well do good for young black men who will need a mother figure to teach them how to do better in life and say no to crime.  Realize many black women who do not love you have missed out on a good person and even the ex-man in your life has missed out on a good black woman.  God bless you Sheila and thanks for reading SoulsofBlackWomen.com.



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Note: All names and photos are fictitious

Michigan doctor disappears; car found; police searching | Souls of Black Women

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Dr. Teleka Patrick has been missing since early this December. Family and friends are worried something very bad could have happened to her. Mysteriously, police have not founder Patrick, but found her car, which seems like foul play to...



Michigan doctor disappears; car found; police searching | Souls of Black Women

Sunday, December 22, 2013

Oakland, CA Girl Left Brain Dead To Be Kept On Life Support | Souls of Black Women

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Well, we bet this is one of the greatest Christmas gift this mother has ever had. Nailah Winkfield's 13-year-old daughter, Jahi McMath had surgery on her tonsils and was declared brain dead, after suffering severe bleeding. Children's Hospital in Oakland, California wanted to take her off of life support, but now, Winkfield cried tears of joy when the judge said she will remain on life support. However, we are not sure for how...


Oakland, CA Girl Left Brain Dead To Be Kept On Life Support | Souls of Black Women

L.A. Man Is Exonorated after 11 Years in Prison | Souls of Black Women

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Another man is exonerated after spending 11 years in prison for something he did not do. DeAndre Howard was accused of murder, but obviously the jury finally believed he was innocent. Isn't it a wonderful thing to see another man set free from the...

L.A. Man Is Exonorated after 11 Years in Prison | Souls of Black Women

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Bronx native Ira Curry, a Mega Millions winner, family fear for their lives | Souls of Black Women

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Ira Curry who is a Georgia resident has won the Mega Millions jackpot, but her family up in the Bronx are very scared for their lives. Allegedly, her brother and sister still reside in the housing projects, they moved in over 40 decades ago. Now, we are not sure why they are worried...



Bronx native Ira Curry, a Mega Millions winner, family fear for their lives | Souls of Black Women

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Celebrity News: Michael Jordan & Wife Expecting Identical Twin Girls

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Sisters, of course many of you have been following what was going on with Michael Jordan before he married this woman, Yvette Prieto. Many of you recall, he was allegedly accused of boring a son out of wedlock and then, with another young black woman...Read full article, here.


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Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Girl, 13, declared brain-dead is to be taken off life support against family’s wishes | Souls of Black Women



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Children's Hospital in Oakland California was caring for Jahi to have her tonsils removed. Obviously, this poor young girl felt very uncomfortable about the surgery, because she forewarned her mother something was not right, in her own words. Although, we are not blaming her mother, but for the rest of you intelligent black women, it's good to listen to your child when they...


Girl, 13, declared brain-dead is to be taken off life support against family’s wishes | Souls of Black Women

Man remains behind bars for raping his daughter, although she recanted story | Souls of Black Women

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It's a shame now that a NY woman claims her father did not rape her, allegedly, he still remains in jail. Prosecutors refuse to release him, although Chaneya Kelly admitted she lied that her father raped her back in 1997. Although, they allegedly re-investigated, Daryl still has no chance of...


Man remains behind bars for raping his daughter, although she recanted story | Souls of Black Women

Celebrity News: Katherine Jackson wants new AEG trial | Souls of Black Women

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We are not surprised one bit about Katherine Jackson wanting a new trial with AEG, because she is a strong woman. When the King of Pop, Michael Jackson died, we heard she took it very hard and hardly could stand in front of her son's crypt. This is what makes her a natural winner, because she suffered a great loss. A lot of pain brings on a lot of courage, which is true...


Celebrity News: Katherine Jackson wants new AEG trial | Souls of Black Women

Celebrity News: Lamar Odom’s daughter shares thoughts on Khloe Kardashian filing for Divorce | Souls of Black Women

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It's such a surprise we are suddenly hearing from Lamar Odom's daughter about his alleged divorce from Khloe Kardashian. Destiny Odom who is from Lamar's former relationship allegedly says she is not surprised of her faither's divorce from Kardashian. In so many words...


Celebrity News: Lamar Odom’s daughter shares thoughts on Khloe Kardashian filing for Divorce | Souls of Black Women

Sunday, December 8, 2013

Ex-Long Beach Police Detective Accused of Aiding Street Gang


We want to encourage you black women, once you are blessed to become a respected city official, never ruin it by becoming affiliated with gangs.  This former Long Beach cop, Yvonne Robinson is allegedly accused of aiding a street gang, according to KTLA.  Robinson was once well respected, but now, she is in deep trouble. 

According to ktla.com, Robinson, along with a family member named as 24-year-old Prentice Jones, was arrested on suspicion of conspiracy to obstruct justice and knowingly aid a criminal street gang, according to a news release from the Police Department.

In the meantime, Robinson is in our prayers.

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Ex-Long Beach Police Detective Accused of Aiding Street Gang

by KTLA Web Staff

A former police detective who spent 13 years on the Long Beach force was accused Friday of providing information to a criminal street gang about a murder investigation.

Ex-Detective Yvonne Robinson, 42, was arrested Thursday in Carson after being fired in...Read full article, here.


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