Sisters, the journalists of Souls of Black Women would like for you to read this article, very carefully. First we want to forewarn you not to go into a hotel room with any preacher, we don't care how anointed he seems to be, how popular or how fine he appears to you. Do not, we will say it again ladies, 'Do Not Go into a hotel room with a preacher just because he calls himself a man of God' and 'Do not even sleep with him, not unless after he becomes your husband.' If you read our sister blog, SCR, then you will know about Prophet Carn allegedly infecting this young lady with an STD called Trichomoniasis.
As black women, we already go through enough hell with our fathers leaving us to be raised by some of our mothers who didn't care about us, not to mention all the men in the family who may have abused us, emotionally, verbally, physically and/or sexually. We go through too much pain for any minister to touch our bodies and infect us with a Sexually Transmitted Disease. It is time for those of you black women whom attend church, to not like a preacher so much, you will sleep with him before marriage, it does not matter if it is your pastor. Many times, a young woman maybe quick to sleep with her family pastor, because he gives her mother a big position in the black church, this has occurred time and time, again, not saying this is what happened with Ashley, but in many other cases.
Prophet Brian Carn is not the first preacher to sleep around with women in the pews within the black church. Since we were little girls, some of us can recall back in the 1970's and 80's we heard stories about our family pastor or a fly by night evangelist having intercourse and impregnating various women of the black church. These were the same preachers who would call these women demon possessed, if they should any signs of resistance. One case, an East Oakland married pastor tried to come onto a 19-year-old girl through a phone conversation and deny it when her mother confronted him; after doing so, her mother took sides with the pastor saying she believed he loved his wife, true story. Sisters, this stuff has got to stop, too many black women refuse to have anything to do with the church, because these preachers have got too much power. Do you want to know why a lot of black women have turned away from attending church or even serving God, because some low down preacher slept with them and broke their hearts. Therefore, we want to encourage you to ignore any preacher who ask you to meet him up in his hotel room, single, married or divorced, because first, you know something is not right for any man of God to ask you up there and secondly, you are not a harlot and thirdly, you don't know if he is infected with an STD like Prophet Carn, allegedly. Therefore, we want to advise you to wait on God and never trust a minister who requests to spend time with you where ever there is a bed. Now, we know a lot of you may have never been married, don't have any children and would love to have the last name of a popular preacher, but in Ashley's case, allegedly, it never happened, instead Carn allegedly infected her with an STD.
God will send you a good man black women and he not necessarily has to be a preacher, but a very good man. You see, this cycle of preachers sleeping around with church women in the pews would stop, if we higher our standards according to God's Word. Now, we are not judging Ashley, but for the rest of you, it is time for you to change the course of things. Let us be the new generation of holy women in the 21st century who will tell these, preachers, 'no.' You may say, 'if it's not me, he's going to go to another woman and ask her to go to bed with him,' well, he's probably going to do that anyway. Sisters, you don't have to be hurt, you can learn from this situation that allegedly happened with Prophet Brian Carn.
Now, Prophet Carn not only allegedly infected this young lady with a Sexually Transmitted Disease, but he also expected her to give him some money, according to our source. Now, requesting money, what kind of spirit is that? That's what you call a pimp spirit and that is why we see too many single women, financially struggling in the church, she is possibly giving all her money to the preacher she is sleeping with. Now, Ashley was smart, she ignored Prophet Carn when he wanted money. Why would he want her to give him any money, since he's this big time preacher, anyway? He may not just be possessed with the spirit of being a pimp, but also having the spirit of greed.
This is what we want to tell you black women, you are too good to be sleeping around with preachers without at least one of them asking for your hand in marriage. The church is not supposed to be a place for making dates, it is supposed to be a place to meet Jesus and become fully delivered and set free from sin. If this type of stuff has been going on since we were young girls, who's going to stop it, sisters? We have to be the ones to reveal to these preachers in the black church, we are too holy for them to touch or infect us with any STD.
So, we just want to tell you to be careful and love yourself enough to seek God so much, He will tell you what's up with any preacher who approaches you for private moments. However, if any of you have turned away from the church, because a (family) pastor or a fly by night evangelist hurt you, do not give up on God. Just because a 'so-call' preacher hurt you, he does not not represent God, because that's not how Jesus would treat you.