To a lot of us black women, it is already offensive to see a black man all hugged up with a white, Latino or Asian woman, but to deal with your ex-husband who left you for a white man or any other race, it is too painful. Sisters, diversity is fine, but God never desired for us to endure such betrayal when it comes to the some black men whom used to love us, and now flaunt their lustful desires to be with another race in our faces, because some left in adulterous affairs, that's when it is very wrong. What is so bad about this situation is that Lorraine's children saw the confrontation when Gerald allegedly brought Dan to the house. Gerald did not even have the decency to respect Lorraine and tell her in private without bringing Dan to the house. This is the type of day we are living in sisters, so much diversity, no respect for us as black women. This is why we always encourage you to make sure you are very close to God, because do not be surprise when the Devil uses the very ones whom promised and vowed to love us for life to hurt us in a very bad way. As black women, we endure such a different type of emotional pain than other races of women, because God made us unique, so this is why you must be very careful whom you make a commitment to, because our feelings are not to be played around with. If nobody wants to respect the black woman, we owe it to ourselves to not be so quick to take a man back, just because he admits he made a mistake. You can forgive, but do not allow black men like Gerald to misuse and abuse your feelings. Let him know he cannot leave and come and come back anytime he wants, especially after you spent many nights crying yourself to sleep, all alone. If he admits he made a mistake, forgive him, but do not allow him to waste anymore of your time, because your life is precious and God gave it to you to enjoy, not be stressed out about anything.
Sisters this is why it is so very hard to be united as a race of people these days, because of this type of mess. Many black women are complaining there are not enough black men to love us. Really, we are better off without them, if they have a lot in common with Gerald.
So, Lorraine, it was Gerald's decision to leave you for Dan and start a new family, let him deal with his mistake. Often times, we should let go of past painful relationships to move forward as God's Word told us in Philippians 3:13, 'Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before...' Therefore, it pays to not take your ex-husband back, if it is going to wake up some very bad memories, just a suggestion. Furthermore, if he is really serious about turning his life around, he will make a change, regardless of you not taking him back. However, if you feel you can deal with it, take him back, it's your life and your choice.
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