Believe it or not, there are many black women who feel too embarrassed to admit they made a mistake marrying a man they did not love, but only married him, because he was available and had money to give her a comfortable wealthy lifestyle. One actual case was a black woman who faced racism and called radio talk show host, Dr. Laura. This case hit national news. She called into Dr. Laura's show complaining that her husband's friends were cracking racial jokes in her presence. Dr. Laura did not support her and did not care. So, dear sisters this reveals that in many cases black women end up feeling all alone and but may not have had to feel that way had she asked God first. Also, being around her husband's friends before they were married possibly for a year or more would have helped, that way she could have made sure if they were color blind or not. Then, there have been several cases when black women married and had children, but felt left out as a black woman among her white in-laws and bi-racial children. The truth hurts very bad, but we must deal with this issue, because black women who have admitted they have made a mistake do not know where to turn. Souls of Black Women blog reveal if you are in that dilemma what should you do.
First and foremost, you should pray and repent to God for marrying a man you only married, because the masses of black women like Regina King told you to take who was available, instead of waiting on God asking Him what he felt about the man you married; it does not matter if he is black or white. You still have to include God and ask Him about who you marry til death do you part, because years later, you will be miserable and it may seem like it is too late. Next, ask yourself are you happy. Is this the life you always wanted or did you marry this white man just because a lot of black men have chose other races of women to marry and turned the other way as though you were not pretty. You need to be honest, because a lot of us black women are miserable for not being honest with themselves and when you lie to yourself, you will lie at the altar while exchanging wedding vows. As you know it is a sin to lie, 'Thou shalt not lie (Exodus 20:16).' That scripture is not just speaking about you lying on others, but also situations that include yourself.
You have got to read this article about this Indian man who killed this black woman for marrying his son for yourself. The father got a life term in prison, but this black woman who married Rai's son left her baby behind and the son went on with his life, true story. Therefore, it's not worth all of that. You cannot force other races to accept you. This ole song, "please accept me, although I'm black" is getting too old now since the civil rights movement. If other races will not accept or love black women by now, then you must make up in your mind to love yourself, because God loved and accepted you, first. It does not matter who does not want us or will not accept us, all that matters is that God accepts us and if He is not enough, then we can never expect Him to bless us with a good and saved man.
Source and photo courtesy: wsbtv.com